Top 5 Tips For Coming Out
If you’re a member of the LGBTQ+ community I’m sure like me you’ve had nightmares about coming out. I can’t tell you the amount of sleepless nights I had growing up because I was terrified to tell the world “Hey this is me, and I like boys”. It’s scary! But that doesn’t mean it isn’t important.
Before I came out I searched the internet tirelessly, devouring every ounce on information about coming out that there could possibly be. The good stories, the bad stories and the damn right weird stories and stories which make me want to reconsider the idea entirely. However what I did learn through this searching is that no two peoples coming out experiences are the same.
Hold on, I’m not saying you have to go at it alone. There there is no help or support when it comes to coming out, I got your back boo. So here are my top 5 tips for coming out
Don’t feel pressured
I know sometimes you can feel pressured to come out to the people closest to you. It feels like you’re hiding something from them and you want to be honest. But sometimes right now isn’t always the best time. You want to make sure you’re coming out for your own reasons, not because you feel you have to. Take your time at the end of the day your coming out is experience is yours, not anyone elses.
Binge watch coming out videos
Yes, I know that I said above that I’ve seen some pretty strange coming out stories and yes some of them did put the fear of god into me. But they also taught me so much. They showed me just how wonderful coming out can be and all the good that can come from it. Not only that but it showed me that I’m not going through this alone. That thousands of other people around the world are in the same exact position that I was, and that it’s something a lot of us are afraid of.
Come out slowly
When I first came out I didn’t wake up one day pull out my rainbow flag and run down the street shouting “I’m a homosexual!”. It was a much slower experience. I started by telling just one person close to me and over time began to tell more and more of my best friends before I finally plucked up the courage to tell my family. By telling just a selection of people it gave me control over the situation. I knew none of those people would ‘out’ me because they’re my best friends, but also they were the support network I needed when people weren’t as accepting as I’d have liked.
Like I’ve said before coming out can be scary and it’s easy to get caught up with all the negative questions. “what if they don’t accept me?”, “What if they don’t love me anymore?”. I’m not going to pretend those aren’t possibilities however it’s so important to focus on all the positive possibilities that can come out of coming out like; finally being able to be your true authentic self, talking about boys, being able to bring your partner home and being happy.
Give people time
If you’re anything like me you want everything to be done yesterday. unfortunately that isn’t how emotions work and we can rush people to become accepting of things. Some people are going to need time to process what you’ve told them and thats ok. They might have questions, but you’ve got the answers.
So those are my top tips for coming out, I hope that those can help you in some way if you are thinking of coming out feel alone and need someone to talk to, give me a shout and I’ll be there for ya. Just remember its your coming out experience not anyone elses, take your time, make sure you’re safe and start living!