Becoming Body Positive
Recently I've been getting so many comments and messages asking me how I became body positive. People saying "I wish I loved my body like you love yours" and "I wish I could just start loving my body". Well I don't want to shatter your perception of me but I didn't wake up and start loving my body. I still hate days when I HATE my body (but those are becoming less frequent). Being body positive isn't about loving your body every second of every day, It isn't about thinking your body is perfect. It's about acknowledging that it isn't and loving it anyway.
So many people will tell you that the key becoming body positive is by loving your body. A concept I've always struggled with. When I first stumbled into this beautiful community loving my body was the last thing I knew how to do and nobody could really give me any suggestions on how to start doing it. It was like I was expected to wake up and suddenly love myself, belly rolls and all. Unfortunately that didn't happen.
Instead for me to becoming body positive it took years of be destroying my body, both physically and mentally. Years of being subjected to societies standards, years of self loathing until finally I was done. Done with being told my body is the basis for my value. Done with being told men have to be manly. Done with being told I have to spend all my time, energy and money trying to change the way I look. Because I wasn't good enough. Well the truth is, I was good enough and so are you.
I am so much more than my body. I'm funny, charismatic, creative, loving, kind, did I mention hillarious? I'm all of those things and more. My body is just a small part of me. It isn't all of me.
Now I'm not telling you that you need to go through the same trials as I did to come to the realisation that you're enough, you're worthy, you're fucking majestic! What lead me onto the path of becoming body positive was standing infront of my mirror (something I avoided at all costs for so many years). Everyday I would pick 1 thing I liked about myself, 1 thing that I didn't want to change. I'd take the time to appreciate it, to thank it for all it does for me. It went alittle like this:
- "Ok I like my eyes, they're super bright and blue"
- "Thank you for allowing me to see, thank you for being constant, thank you for being the same as mums"
- "Who am I kidding? My eyes are CUTE!"
Now not everyday was this easy. There were days where I would spend the entire day thinking about what I like about myself. Days where I couldn't find anything. Days where I found mutiple things I liked. And thats ok. Body positivity isn't a destination, it's a journey. We're all learning to live with our bodies and love them for all they do to us. Of course there will be days where you don't see eye to eye but whats important is acknowleding those thoughts and moving past them. Your body is beautiful, you are beautiful. You will get there. One day at a time.
Love always, bopo.boy