Being The Fat Funny Friend
Growing up I was always a chubby kid. I was promised my ‘baby’ fat would melt away throughout my adolescence and that Id be just like everyone else. It’s safe to say that didn’t happen. With puberty just came new places for my body to store fat and a whole host of new insecurities. Unlike most kids that look different to everyone else I wasn’t bullied or picked on. I actually had a large group of friends through my entire childhood and teenage years. However it became apparent quickly that we all had our roles within our friendship group. Mine being that of the fat funny friend. I’m sure you’ve seen us, the fat funny ones. We’re in movies and on TV shows, we never have the main role and exist for the sole purpose of propping up the main character, making them seem more attractive by comparison and adding humour here and there. We’re like a sidekick, you know the ones that have a hideous costume whilst the main super hero looks immaculate. Thats what it was like for me growing up. You see all my friends were skinny, they all played football and they didn’t have to worry about things like stretch marks and man boobs. I remember in school the only time girls would speak to me (bare in mind I was ‘straight’ back then) would only be to get closer to one of my friends or get their number. At the beginning that was difficult, I couldn’t understand why people weren’t interested in me and it was the first time that I started to look at my body and hate what I saw staring back at me.
I carried the role of the fat funny one as I got older and I actually began to embrace it. I used my humour as a shield to protect me from insults that people would inevitable send my way. I thought if I can say these things about myself then it takes all the power away from everyone else. I didn’t realise just how damaging this was. I’d constantly make jokes about my body before anyone else had the chance and although I thought this was protecting me, all I was doing was opening up the floor for everyone else to think its ok to make jokes about my body too. I was numb to insults about my body. I also become the best wing-man you could find, especially once I came out. I mean straight girls are least intimidated by a fat, funny gay guy walking over to them in a bar. Which meant I could always chat to girls and introduce to my fiends. Just after university was when it hit me. Here I was nearly 10 years on and I was still playing the exact same role I was assigned in secondary school. I bet if you asked everyone in my university class to describe me they would say ‘fat & funny’. It was something I was used to and it became all that I was. I didn’t both trying to be anything else or to show anyone another side of me because I knew ultimately they would classify me as the fat funny one. Thats when I made the decision to quit my role as the side kick and become the lead actor in the play that is my life. I am so much more than fat & funny. I am kind, intelligent, a massive geek and a pretty good husband if I do say so myself.
What I’m trying to say is that I was done with being the fat, funny friend and you should be too because although I’m fat and damn right hilarious I am so much more than that and so are you