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New Years Resolutions Not Focussed On Changing Your Body

New Years Resolutions Not Focussed On Changing Your Body

Happy New Year! I wish everyone could be as excited for the new year as I am.

Unfortunately for most the new year brings with it a wave of self loathing and overbearing pressure to change our bodies to fit into societies expectations - that expectation being thin. But not this year Satan, this year is all about growth, self love and being more understanding with our bodies. Are you with me?

Year after year Ive had the same resolution. Lose weight, get abs, be more masculine. However as we know by now those things don’t matter our value isn’t judged by the width of our waists but instead by the depth of our hearts. So this year I propose ditching appearance based resolutions and instead working on something more meaningful, here are my resolutions for the year and I hope you can find some inspiration to ditch the ‘new year, new me’ bullshit we’ve tried and failed at since diets began.

Giving back to my body, & saying no more often

I can’t be the only one who struggles with this. I find it so hard to say no. FOMO is real and honestly I go around in a permenent coffee filled daze because I take on too much, offer to help too many people and say yes to every single opportunity that comes my way. But thats the problem. I burn myself out and although I think I’m being incredibly productive and helping as many people as possible I’m actually doing them and me a disservice. By not putting myself first I can’t help others to the best of my ability. Whereas if I took some time to recharged, relax and give back to my body I could replenish my resource allowing me to do better at the things I do, allowing me to prosper. So this year I’m going to say no more. I’m going to be more mindful to check in with my body and my mind to make sure I’m doing ok and that I have the capacity to take on another opportunity or to help someone out and if I don’t, thats ok. I don’t have to say yes to everything that comes my way. Although I’m so grateful for every opportunity my mental and physical well being is more important and I’d rather take some time to recharge so I can give 100% rather than giving 25%.

Finding the joy in movement

For so long exercise for me has been linked to weight loss and I still find it difficult to participate in some activities because it brings back the bad memories I had when I was so miserable with my body and desperately trying to change it. However I do enjoy exercise, I love the rush of endorphins running through my veins as it make feel unstoppable. I’m going to work on finding the joy in movement. Whether its taking Edna out for a walk or trying to do yoga (trying being the key word here, I’m terrible at yoga). I feel that physical activity is beneficial for my well being and I truly aspire towards finding joy in our incredible bodies, because I believe these vehicles that we navigate life using are amazing and we should try to experience as much as we can with them, without impacting on ourselves in a negative way.

Being more present

Its truly staggering how much of our time we spend looking at a screen, so much time in fact that sometimes we miss out on whats going on around us. I know for me I can get so caught up on replying to emails, responding to comments and scrolling through my feed that I forget to be present in the moment. Don’t get me wrong I love the internet, social media and all that it brings and it’s honestly transformed my life. But I think it’s important to realise that not everything we see online is ‘real’ and taking time away from that is completely necessary. I pledge in 2019 to be more present. To have certain times of day where I won’t be looking at a screen and will instead use that time to check in with my body and mind. I’ll use that time to read a book, play a board game with Sam or simply be in my body. This time away helps us to refocus, to understand what it is that truly matters and to be grateful for everyone and everything we have around us.

So there you have it my three resolutions for 2019! I would love to know what resolutions or aspirations you have for the year ahead so please let me know and I wish you the most glorious of years. 2018 was great but 2019 is going to smash it out the park!

Love bopo.boy

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